Sounds like you are getting better at the whole detaching thing. I just posted some wise words on detaching written by LaBug a few years ago. Very clearcut and helpful.
As for the therapist. If you sense this therapist is moving you in a certain direction that you aren't comfortable with, maybe rethink seeing this therapist.
Or, let the therapist know that you aren't making any big decisions right now about ending the relationship. YOu want to work on yourself and get stronger. Be clear about your goals.
Also, I don't think talks with H about the therapy session are going to serve any good purpose right now. He is not the guy to reveal your deepest most vulnerable thoughts right now. I thought it was kinda telling and kinda funny how you were trying to talk to him about Grown Up stuff and he had to go Skating!! I think that says it all.
It's sad, it suckkkks, it's terribly unfair and I could go on and on. His mind is that of a boy right now and you are expecting him to be able to have very grown up conversations about very grown up stuff.
Did you call an attorney yet? Free consults. Start checking info on the Internet. Ooooooorrrrr, even post legal questions here.
Forgive me if you have already, I didn't have time to read all of your current posts. I just keep thinking that you have so many unanswered questions about your rights and your son's rights in all this.
Love to you,
Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
