Developing your "no expectations" muscle is key to this process and is healthy for any R.

You have no control over how he will react to things so let it go. Only do things you really want to do, don't do things for effect or pressure or pleading.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss