Its not an open marriage, because there is no sharing of intimacy, which is the definition of open marriage. We are separated, but sharing living space.
I can't legally change the locks on the house. Her name is on the Deed and I'd need a court order to do that.
What I said about my daughter is that I did not ever want her to surprise her husband that there is someone else. When you exchange vows with someone, they deserve your loyalty and if you can't provide that you should say so. To allow yourself to talk to a member of the opposite sex and share intimate details of your life is like playing with fire.
My D3 doesn't understand what is going on, and I have some more time before she does. And I'm hoping we can resolve this before that time comes. I understand what you say about leading by example, believe me I do because here I an living by my parents example and doing my very best to try to keep this family together.
So honestly the comments about being hypocritical etc while I see what you mean in terms of my philosophy in life, it does not take into account the actual situation I am in. Its like perhaps ruining your chance to save your marriage so that your new born can learn a lesson. Doesnt make sense really. My daughter is not learning anything negative, yet.
Gabbysmom I want to show her a consequence. How cn I do that with smaller things in our daily life? That's kind of where I am now. Waiting to see how D3 responds to her new program and trying to keep her life as stable as possible for now. But at the same time I would like to have W feel some loss. Is that possible?
It may be time to consult with my DB coach and see what she recommends.
Me, H-34 now 38 W-32 now 35 T-13 now 18 years M-6 now 9 Daughter 3 years now 7 Bomb 11/27/12 - OM 1 year in house separation Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017
