Wife wants Divorce, I do Not

[MrBond]

"Yes, I've been selfish. I admit that. I've been wrong. I do think she is being selfish with this."

How about you just talk about yourself and that it. When you add her being "selfish" you're keeping score. Like a little kid on a playground who says that that they were wrong BUT their friend did something worse. That doesn't exactly show humility on your part.

"And it's not a mature thing to do. Especially on fb."

And who are you to judge what is mature? That is just your OPINION. You are judging her and sounding like a parent more than a H. No one likes to be judged by someone else. Do you?

"I will read the books when they arrive. Yes, I'm having trouble understanding. Not sure of next move. Other than working on myself, my issues, my problems I feel stuck."

You haven't been working on your issues because you still blame your W. Just stick to working on yourself first and making yourself the focus.

"I have admitted my faults and wrong doing and accepted them. She knows."

But you haven't done anything to CHANGE.

"I'm having trouble letting go but I think in our last talk that she may feel I am trying at least."

You don't have to "let go". Just stop focusing on her. Understand that this is something that she feels she has to do. Stop judging her.