Well, I can tell you, I didn't like the comment he made about returning home because it's comfortable. That's not a good enough reason to come home. He should have said that he wanted to come home and build a new life w/you because he loved you and wanted you in his life.
Job, I think you're dead wrong here.
As a reformed MLCer, for me, feeling comfortable with the notion of returning home is the PARAMOUNT, foremost in our thought process when contemplating returning home or to the M. Otherwise, we wouldn't be back home, right? That is how we think and look at the world from the MLC journey. I do have to qualify this statement that we never truly lost our love for our spouses that lies buried beneath the surface.
In a way, H verbalized what we many MLCers are thinking and processing in looking at our LBSes and home. There's a good reason why you standers are called "lighthouses", 'beacons" beckoning us back home because YOU are the source of comfort in our bewildering confused minds.
Saying that H "should have" said he wanted to come home...is holding out a very strident standard that we cannot possibly meet/measure up when coming out of the "fog" and taking notice of our surroundings.
Think about it from our perspective. Please be kind and gentle to us.
