I am not sure if I would approach it with any detail. I would personally go with something more like this

Originally Posted By: Fartiltre
W, You made the decision to brake us up and I don’t want to confuse the children or others about the two of us … me attending a little private birthday might just do exactly that .....Thank you for the party invitation, but I will have to take a rain check this time


Me:46 Her:38
My D: 11
Her S: 8