Going to jump in here for just a moment, you got alot of really good posters don't want to mix the messages.
You're a little younger than me. You ever listen to a band called Social Distortion? "I Was Wrong?"
lyrics: "...but how you can love someone one if you don't love yourself?"
Perfect is out of the question man.
Trying, that is the goal. Every day. Try. Strive.
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I guess I have felt for so long that the most important people in my life didn't appreciate me or love me for that man that it obviously wasn't enough.
Your words...and it is a telling statement: people. Not person, not just your wife. People plural. Who else?
I think that is part of your problem. feeling unappreciated, taken for granted. How could that not affect you?
When I felt taken advantage of, I would tell my friends, as an example:
"Look if all you needed as a ride, that's cool, I'll be your chauffeur today, but don't call me after this. Now if you wanted to hang out that is also cool but part of the day is mine as well."
You do and should stand up for yourself...not with your wife if she in is MLC...not right now. But with other people, hell yeah.
The guy your wife fell in love with...pretty sure he was more of a stand up for himself and others type of guy...I could be entirely wrong, might be right though. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
