Thanks.. I agree.. there is some great advice and I'm going to do what I can.
I've asked her time and time again, (realizing that emotional connection is key) and she's told me some things... I've done them. Then she thinks of new ones... I've done those... then new ones. I guarantee if I have this discussion with her, and I probably will, it's going to be something different.
I am working out and losing weight.. I'm getting there.. for me.