Not only is that no way to have a relationship, but that's no way to live either. There aren't enough hours in the day for me as it is. I need to be in tune with my relationship. That is the best indicator.
That was amazingly well said Raine. I don't advocate always checking up, I do believe in trying to control it down to zero, as long as they MLCer is trying to regain trust and is consistently proven to be trustworthy.
This trust issue, don't be putting the cart before the horse, verification of trust comes with 'piecing' when you both are working toward reconciliation. Before that time...I think it is about as useful as herding cats.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
