Rosa, you have been a kind, loving and giving w to your h, but as you can see, he's getting worse, not better, so you need to start making some changes and those changes are for you. If you fix a meal and he doesn't come to the table on time, don't wait on him. If you are invited somewhere and he doesn't make a move to go, don't wait on him. If he's got laundry that needs to be done, don't do it. If he asks you why you haven't done it...GRUNT! That's the new language from the Mother Planet. No more special favors. He goes to pick up his prescriptions, etc. If he wants to act like a total @ss, then give him something to truly grunt about. It's time he realized that you are not his mother or his maid.
Rosa, dear sweet one...I hope this doesn't sound hypocritical coming from me....cause we all know I keep putting up with a lot of spewing and BS from my H...but you need to listen to job...and others!
You are so sweet and loving and wonderful. I read your sitch and think "wow....he is such an @$$ to her"...
You need to start doing things for YOU! Others here have posted some great stuff for you to do to get your dignity and respect back. You are NOT his maid or mother!
You need to stand up for yourself a bit. I know uR has been encouraging you to shake things up a bit...and that is an excellent idea!
Your H needs to see that, while you are standing for your marriage, you are NOT going to stand for his hateful, rude behavior toward you.
It's a struggle...trust me, I KNOW! Lol. We walk that fine line between being sweet, warm, friendly, loving, etc....and yet, needing to be firm and strong, too.
You CAN do this. Your H needs to see the strong, courageous Rosa that we all see. You deserve to be treated with some respect.
And, yes, RT is USELESS. Do not let her occupy another second of your time in any way.
