"You're My Best Friend"

[Raine]

I would say that my H said at the time and likely would still say now that he came home and stayed home because he was safe and secure here. When questioned, he told all the OW that he was here because he needed the security. There hasn't been zero mention that he is here for me or wants to be with me. Actions, yes, but zero verbal in that area.

However, he is very transparent. He is very open about who he is talking to and what he is doing and he has changed a lot of things that he has done throughout our marriage that may have been innocent then, but now, there is too much that has happened for those things to be innocent again. He does not do anything that would be questionable. He doesn't get near that line.

And I have never gotten the sense from my H that I should feel grateful he came back. He has always put out the vibe that I am better off without him. That he wants to be here more than I want him here. But again, my H has never come out and said he wants us or wants to work on us. Nothing is verbalized with him. It's all action.