NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

[Fartiltre]

Sandi,

Sorry to hear about your mother. I hope she will have a fast recovery and be back on her feet for Christmas. I can imagine that you are having a crazy time so I thank you deeply for still taking your time looking in on me.

I will accept that she comes here on 23. and I will make it as Christmas-like and cozy as possible. I will tell her this next time she calls.
I will not attend her birthday, but right now I feel like asking her to come here before church (on her birthday) and then go to church and neighbors together. I might change my mind on this one so I will hold answering this for some days.

I believe you should tell her that it could be sending mixed messages about the two of you being a couple if you were to show up at her party.

I hope you will expand a little on this one. I don’t see this myself – perhaps a little to the children. Are they who you are talking about when you mention mixed signals. Do you want me to say something like:
W, You made the decision to brake us up and I don’t want to confuse the children or others about the two of us … me attending a little private birthday might just do exactly that
…or something like that.

She may turn it around and ask you how you would feel if they (the guests) wondered if you were getting back together. IDK.

I don’t know either, but I don’t think that will be her comment. I will prepare for it but I think she might come back with something wondering like “What do you mean?” and perhaps a little angry “We were supposed to be a family after this – we promised the children” but I am OK with that. I do not fear her or her reactions anymore.
I will prepare!

But remember, any time you aren't sure what to say, just tell her you would need to think about it.

Rule no. 1 in my life these days

Thanks a lot!

F