WR, You need some weight in the back of the van. Get some bags of sand, kitty litter or if you have some cinder blocks...put them in the back of the van over the tire areas. That should help with traction.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.