I really feel for you and know how hard it is to go through what you are experiencing. I am glad that I have helped you. It is not selfless though, as I feel that when I help you (or anyone) I help myself. Your efforts to change your way of life are inspiring to me. You are so sincerely trying to change. Just the fact that you are trying to treat everyone in a new and valued way, proves that you understand this is not only about your relationship with your W and that you are going through this for a bigger reason. Congratulations on that! I am doing the same...it gives me great pleasure to know that I am slowing down, paying attention to how I make others feel, and making a conscious effort to ensure that people feel good when they are around me. You are obviously succeeding at that since your family surprised you! They wanted to be around you! Sweet!
What I have noticed is that I have been VERY hard on myself for the mistakes that I have made in the past. I think I have to be in order to make honest changes, but there is a time and place for reflecting...and I think I am in a place where I have to give myself a break. I don't know if you have been doing this like I have, but when you said that you gave her a nativity set last year, it made me think that is something that you have to remember that you did right!. What a nice gift! What I would do for my BF to be so thoughtful!
Remember the things you did right, and recall WHY you did those things. Love. I heard just today that God will reward you when the intentions in your heart are right, despite any mistakes that you may have made. Think of this when you are discussing financials and making decisions here. You have to protect yourself, and in doing that you are taking loving care of your kids and ultimately your W. Stand up for yourself, lovingly!
Miracles are happening every second. You are good.
Me:35 BF:36 Together 4.5 years lived together 2 years moved out 8-13 still "together" but not together. Confused. D11, D13 (from 1st marriage)
