Posting things on fb, running on emotion and hurt feelings, leaving me and our things, treating a marriage like be/gf, acting 20 something, avoiding anything to do with me, still saying I love you, knowing I will stay where I'm working and living, asking me if it's ok to call me, .....
That's not selfish?
I know my wrongs. Yeah, I see the light now and it is too late. She's not seeing hers or being responsible.