There have been a couple of things really playing on my mind the last couple of days that I feel tempted to mention to my wife, however I know I probably shouldn't & that she doesn't really care what I think at the moment anyway.
That bolded part right there is good DB'ing and is where your post should have STOPPED. But it didn't...
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I have been thinking that if she did ever have any doubts at all about this separation that I don't think she would act on it because she will think she has gone too far now to go back.
Firstly by telling all of her friends & family of what has happened and her intentions, & having that social circle also supporting her actions, she would find it almost impossible to then admit to them she has changed her mind.
Mind-reading, but even if true, would you want to be married to someone who is more concerned about what others think than she is concerned about the love of her life?
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If she did have second thoughts she would find it too hard to admit to anyone so she would dismiss/suppress the thoughts & carry on with the separation.
Also mind-reading, but if true it's nothing you can control anyway. If that's the way she feels then nothing you say is going to make a difference.
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These things really make me want to say something to her like "It doesn't matter how far things have gone and what people might think, it is never too late".
And how would ^^that^^ make a difference? Because like you said up above- "she doesn't really care what I think at the moment anyway". She is on HER journey. Nothing you say or do to "wake her up" is going to help your sitch and will likely just make things worse. You only have control over one thing- YOU. So work on what you control and let her work on her issues.
