Trust but verify...and slowly stop verifying...until you feel that your trust is not misplaced.
Trust took me a long while, years. When I gave it back too quickly, because I 'wanted' too, because I 'wanted' everything to be good again I was foolish and got burned...rather I burned myself, she wasn't deserving of trust at that time and I was stupid.
Now? Oh God yeah. I don't even remember the last time I looked at her phone. But I used to.
Years, and that sounds bad, maybe daunting? It's not; I 'mostly' trusted her; I was verifying. It's not like I didn't trust her on a daily basis, most days the thought of trust never came up, but when it did, when the little monkey in my brain started chattering away, yeah I checked.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
