Don't Break Character

[Raine]

BF I think he has a long way to go. I do too. We together have a long way to go. It's like the start of a new relationship.

He has not come to terms with all he has done or what put him into crisis in the first place. He hasn't faced the damage he has done and the people he has hurt. He wants to sweep it under the rug. He has lots of quirky, weird little things, things that make him feel "secure" or "separate" like his own clothes hamper, his bags still lingering in the closet, things he needs to get rid of. He still has ties to all the OW. He still has all of them on FB, except the one I told him to remove. I haven't' said anything about the rest. He has not come clean about a lot. I know a lot more than he has admitted to. He won't go back to counseling. He doesn't want to talk about us, or acknowledge us, talk about our R or that we even have one. He doesn't wear a wedding ring.

There is quite a list there and quite a bit more I could add.