I don't know if you want it or not, but I'll share my idea of forgiveness, or you could like sift through 10K plus posts. : )
To me and for my wife forgiveness meant, that once I forgave her, I could and would NEVER use what I forgave her for in an argument ever. Otherwise it's not really forgiveness you know? If it can and is used as ammo in a fight...then you lied about forgiving her.
That's not to say we didn't talk about it, but not is a weapon sort of way. It was never used to cut.
As for myself? Forgiveness meant that I stopped kicking myself in the teeth for my mistakes. I took awhile to stop feeling bad and simply use the mistakes as a learning point. Now don't get me wrong I still feel bad about my mistakes, the difference is I don't really dwell on them.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
