Raine, this is a beautiful update. I’m so grateful that you are posting these details about your journey. It gives me hope.

All our friends told my H that he was lucky to be married to me. He was happy to hear that at first, but the last few years before the BD he just went silent when somebody said that.

Originally Posted By: Raine
I thought I had everything in my life under control. No need for patience, because I could control it all. I thought there was always a way to get what I wanted, if I just put in the effort. There was a lack of appreciation. I took too much for granted. I've looked at life from both sides now. I can feel things for other people now that I never could before. And that is intense and powerful and beautiful and sweet, all at once. I woke up. Parts of me that I didn't even know existed woke up.

This ^^^^^. I felt the same. I still have lots of work to do though.

Wonka, why do you say that Raine’s H is not fully baked yet? I don’t quite see it this way.


M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state