I think I can stop this.... can you help me?

[Fitz]

I don't think that there is any OM in the picture. I think that what she did in the past was more for revenge for what she thought that I had done.

I believe she is a full-blown WAS. But I also think that she suffers from depression as well and takes all of her problems out on me since I am closest to her.

Prior to BD on 11/14 (W wants D), there were several grenades thrown my way over the course of the previous 6 months (her threatening D), which were always diffused after a few days. what happened on 11/14 with BD was when I opened my eyes that things needed to change.

Her actions are still showing that she is having a change of heart. I came home last night from work and she greeted me with a big hug and told me that she is glad I am home and she missed me. But still nothing has been said concerning us separating (she went from wanting D to S).

Her actions are now showing me one thing, but I have admitted that I have snooped through her emails (which I stopped doing) and saw that she was emailing looking for an apartment. She also told me the other day that she has consulted with a lawyer to see what her rights were, and she told me that the question that she had for the lawyer was if she leaves the house would that be considered her abandoning her child.

For the past few days I have been receptive to her change in attitude without going overboard. I hug her back when she hugs me, I have been conversating with her when she talks to me, but I have not been initiating anything and have not been showering her with the I love yous and I miss yous that she has. I am very skeptical here as to what she is thinking/feeling and if she has some type of motive behind all of this