All what you relay below is understandable. It is a lot of mindreading. You just don't know what W is thinking at all.
I've seen many cases here when the WAS done all your W has done as said above...even right up to the D hearing or whatever it's called...then all of sudden they pull back at the last possible minute and ask "for more time." Even with D papers signed, people DO reconcile.
Ignore all the external chatter and what W has told other people, just continue being your upbeat self and blow them away with your calmness. I've had people look at me with a thoughtful eyebrow wrinkle as if to say to themselves, "Wonka isn't too bad at all. She can't be what Ms. Wonka has made her out to be." Trust me on this. Family and friends will eventually draw their own conclusions about you.
The most important thing is never, never badmouth your W in front of your friends, family and kids. I've zipped my mouth on Ms. Wonka and never made a peep about her other than "she's a great gal."
