Shutting the F*ck Up

[Ambivalent]

Portia,

I get the "shopping" for another woman. It is those who have the least confidence, and most insecurities that NEED a person to be there.

Mine never liked coming home to an empty house. Never lived on his own, Mom or room mate.

He is in a condo, free of charge and the owner goes back and forth from FL.

When he wants a place of his own, I will know that someone is there as the replacement. I'm starting to get comfortable with my alone in the house time, but then I could do things by myself as a teen.

I never needed a guy or needed to do something with another.

When I do, it is because I want to.

My husband needs to be needed...ding ding ding...epiphany!

Now it makes sense that he needs me to want to do things with him since his T. had started falling. It wasn't so much control but that he was needing the connection women want earlier in marriages.

He still has no clue on this, and due to male pride, would NOT want to know this.

I remember reading that we tend to switch roles as we age due to hormones. This may also be a reason as to why men seek younger women...as we age, we toughen up and don't cling.

As they age they soften up and seek more emotional connection. Yes, sex and youth are part of it too, but I see the emotional/hormonal side has a big role in this.

Too bad a lot of men do not become introspective until it is too late or a crisis occurs. Some NEVER become introspective...my father comes to mind!