The only new thing is, I am dating. I have been going into it REALLY slow, just one date night every two weeks, while D is spending time with her mom. unlike W, I don't think I will let D know that I am going on dates or meeting new women, until I have settled into a long term relationship. I just worry so much about daughter getting the rug pulled out from under her in W's current sitch. D now has a new circle of piers, a new adult man figure in her life and a whole group of people that she has become attached to. I worry about the timeline that wife chose, and if the reality of a relationship surviving that can go long term. Perhaps that isn't the case, but I tend to worry. I would hate to see daughter hurt again.
I have been making HUGE strides in my detachment. I think that is partially due to time, and partially due to the fact that wife has permanently set up shop with OM. I just think that the marriage/divorce is so far gone, that I could never go back. The idea of her sleeping and living with another man, including daughter in his life, the whole new circle of friends, the fact that our separation is so publicly known.....It's just too much for me to get passed. So, knowing that it's "OVER", is allowing me to detach a little more. I will not say I don't have those thoughts still. I often worry and stress about why it all had to happen. I still can't get my head wrapped around wife just stepping out of my life one day and never coming back. It's still a struggle, but I am moving forward.
I need to GAL a little more. Lately, I have been settling into my old schedule, work, home, sleep. I spend all of my time with daughter when she is with me, so it only allows for every other week to do GAL activities. I am spending time with friends, and I am going on the occasional date, but I can and should be doing more.
Other than that, life is grand! I have been spending more time on the threads, checking out everyone else's sitchs. There are so many of us out there with similar stories. It's so sad for me.
