I want also clarify something I did mention in my previous post, I am not stating that you are being disrespectful by posting other online forum names here, but we all need to be a bit more sensitive in the fact that this is Michele's forum which is a spin off from her day-to-day business in the real world.

Please don't get me wrong, I think you've done a great job of sharing info that you have found on the other site as well as the books you have read. Sharing is important when it comes to dealing w/a crisis in a family.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.