I do agree w/Portia about the backup plans. Many mlcers have someone waiting in the wings, be it an EA or a PA. They can't be alone and they need to know that someone is out there that will encourage them that they are doing the right thing.
Just remember, you didn't break them, therefore, you can't fix them. If it isn't the current OP in their lives, they would have someone else or continued to go from one to the next seeking out that admiration and validation that they require to escape from growing up and reality.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
