Wild at Heart would probably give you some insight into your Hs wound... don't know that it will tell you why he has trouble recommitting to your family. It sure seems like he is comfortable. And it doesn't look stuck to me. I think you might just accept things just as they are, stop EXPECTING progress. Enjoy that your H loves you and your kids and realize this may be the best he can do right now.
I don't know that my sitch will give you any insight. My Hs dad left too, but he never finished his journey, still is bitter and angry at Hs mom, who is dead. I wish I had realized all this stuff when I was still with H... I sure could have been more compassionate and understanding.
H has not shared any of this with me since the multiple bombs. So, I don't think my thread will be particularly helpful.
Wild at Heart is a very deep, deep book. While it will help you delve into your Hs heart, it may also burrow a bit into yours. I had to read it twice, and cried much both times (however, I can cry at a stoplight now.)
Any other book by John Eldredge would probably be awesome, too. The book is Enchanted Love by Marianne Williamson. Another book mentioned in Wild at Heart that I plan on reading is Healing the Masculine Soul by Dalbey.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
