This is an example of the trend I'm talking about.

Tonight we needed to switch vehicles so I could pick up one of the kid's Christmas presents that wouldn't fit in my car, but would in her van. I left work and stopped by her work for the switch. She asked me to come inside and say "hi" instead of just taking the van (we both have keys to each other's vehicles so no interaction necessary).

I tuck the kids in tonight, she gets home from work, so it's time for me to go. She came in for a hug before I left. 10 minutes later she sends me a text saying "it was good to see you tonight".

This is the behavior I'm seeing more of, very often... almost typical. And I'm not initiating it.

She'll get up to sit on my lap while watching tv together (not to initiate sex). She'll grab my hand while telling me a story. She'll tell me what I'm wearing looks nice or that I look "good" or "muscular." She'll smell me during a hug and say she misses my smell.

It's different than two years ago or a year ago or nine months ago. She's reaching out.

I don't think I need to change what seems to be working, I just think it may be a poor time to officially set boundaries and create distance. If the situation regresses, then maybe that changes things.

I'm open to opinions. Please and thank you.

-PM

M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds

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