Thanks Ambivalend and labug! For sure it will be crucial for us to find a good counselor this time, I feel it may make or break us so I am quite nervous about it. Ambiv.. I like your idea of finding a Gottman/type therapist. I have a few of their books that I would like to really get into reading and for sure check out the youtube videos.
I like my counselor now but I wish it were a bit more solution-oriented like my DB coach In fact, I was considering doing a few MC sessions with my H and the DB coach.. is there anyone that has tried that? It would be quite costly so we would only likely do a few sessions. I just really like and trust my coach.
H has mentioned moving in before Christmas. Today I asked him if he thought things were going well for us and he told me yes, and I could feel he really meant it. Things seem different and good between us. I told him I feel kind of strange the way things are, that I was wondering if he would be moving in. (I had told myself a million times NOT to ask him that, to let HIM initiate the conversation, but somehow I blurted it our anyhow ) This seems to be my track record.. Adding new 180 to my list.. STFU! He told we could talk later during the week. Now I am regretting having said that to him, but hopefully I will have some positive news.
M: 8 yrs T:14 Twins:7 S:5 BD:'NLILWY': Feb/2013 Mar/Apr/May: MC June: "living in limbo" Sept 12: H moves out Oct 20: reconciling Jan-Feb 2014:MC Feb 2014: separating, and H moved out.
In fact, I was considering doing a few MC sessions with my H and the DB coach.. is there anyone that has tried that? It would be quite costly so we would only likely do a few sessions. I just really like and trust my coach.
) This seems to be my track record.. Adding new 180 to my list.. STFU! He told we could talk later during the week. Now I am regretting having said that to him, but hopefully I will have some positive news.
