Job, you are spot-on. He went to the lifestyle he had before he married me. He had minimum possessions, was shopping with coupons and had a 69 pickup truck. Like I mentioned before, I always made more money than him, sometimes significantly more. I could handle two mortgages and other expenses pretty much on my own when I had good contracts. He could afford to stay home during the winter, so he didn’t have to freeze his behind. Not anymore.

He is literally living in the cold right now, LOL. It is now below freezing with snow on the ground in the state where he works. He hates cold, but he HAS to stay there and work in the miserable conditions, because he no longer has a W who has his back. I know he will survive, like he did before he married me.

I’ve been thinking about him having some unfinished business from the past a lot. I think he was having these issues with his past for the most part of our M. He had both worlds pretty much. He was a good husband and a step dad, he had home and did all the things that a married man does. And there was another world when he traveled for work. He was a single guy, he partied a lot and met new people all the time. So, in a sense, he continued to enjoy the teenage years when he was away from home. And I guess the pull of that life became stronger.

Portia, I’m with you, girl.

WBW, your H thinks that the D will change everything for him. And, yes, he wants his guilt to go away. He will discover that it is not going to be case, trust me.

Rosa, I actually don’t remember the last year Christmas. H didn’t want to celebrate Christmas for a number of years when we were married. Last few years he kind of mellowed down and we went to his BIL or traveled to Mexico and were invited to our friends’ dinners. I think this was one of his unresolved issues with his Mom. I don’t know if he will ask to be part of my family celebration. This is where I’m straggling. He would certainly be welcomed by my family, but the question is whether I will want him there or not.

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state