I think many of us are in the club of not knowing if what were doing is working as well. You have done pretty amazing job in spite of that, through out this 90 day.
If I remember correctly, you posted not too long ago that you sent her an email about some things... did she respond or has she been quiet since?
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope