MrBond... we both have trainers and she is in wonderful shape... I am about 70# overweight.
I know I'm disgusting and she tells me: "you were big when I married you, it doesn't bother me"
I'm bald and have hair on my back.... a makeover won't help that.
I honestly believe that she's disgusted by me and it's hard for her to even come near me because of it.
Weird thing is that when we married she was about 50 pounds overweight and for the first 15-16 years of our marriage she didn't even care about her health/working out etc.. But now she does (and I do too, just not as intensely as her) and I think she just can't stand the sight of me.
She won't kiss me, barely touches me at all in an affectionate way and really doesn't think anything is wrong with her. "I'm not you, I don't know what to tell you." she says.
Accuray.... I hear you. I just can't bring myself to have sex with her to be selfish.
The thing I can't understand is that this wasn't always her. She couldn't keep her hands off of me when we were dating through the first 5-6 years of our marriage.... and it all died.
I'd totally understand if this is the way it's been from the beginning and that I was asking her to do something she's never done, but it's not.
KarenR.... I'm going to see how Thursday goes with the therapist and go from there...but I may take you up on that.
