Wife wants Divorce, I do Not

[MrBond]

""Get it" meaning acknowledgment of the affair, where I and WE went wrong, our marriage is over, that her and I are moving forward?"

No. "Getting it" means that you understand what went wrong, that you validate her feelings of hurt and that regardless of what, you are doing what it takes to make yourself a better man. Period. This isn't about moving forward or the A. It's understanding how you got to this point and doing things to fix it. Not for your W, but for you.