RL, The next time your h grunts at you in the way of a response, turn around and ask him if he is having indigestion or a bad case of gas. That should rock him just a bit.
Rosa, you have been a kind, loving and giving w to your h, but as you can see, he's getting worse, not better, so you need to start making some changes and those changes are for you. If you fix a meal and he doesn't come to the table on time, don't wait on him. If you are invited somewhere and he doesn't make a move to go, don't wait on him. If he's got laundry that needs to be done, don't do it. If he asks you why you haven't done it...GRUNT! That's the new language from the Mother Planet. No more special favors. He goes to pick up his prescriptions, etc. If he wants to act like a total @ss, then give him something to truly grunt about. It's time he realized that you are not his mother or his maid.
As for the RT, I wouldn't give another thought to her because quite frankly, she's useless. Let him grunt to her for a while and I bet she comes up w/another home remedy for that too!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
