This may sound odd but you need to be priority one because if you don't take care of you, you can't be there for D.

Don't worry about eating, you're a healthy male, you won't starve yourself to death smile You'll get hungry and eat when you're ready.

Acc's suggestion about the stipulation is a good one.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss