Any thoughts? Conversations in my marriage the past few days:
NUMBER ONE------- W: I need to talk to you. I am thinking that I might text xAP to tell her about my surgery the day before I have it. I will make sure she knows that she is not to try to call my family or me or send dinner again like she did last time.
Me: (Silent)
W: You're mad aren't you?
Me: I told you how I feel about contact. This is your decision.
W: Nevermind. I'm not even sure I'm going to do it. I just made you mad for nothing. Forget it. I can't believe I made you mad for nothing.
Me: I'm not mad. (eating my dinner in a restaruant... swallowing my tongue)
NUMBER TWO-------- W: I'm not ready to talk to YOUR friends (our friends that didn't support her when they found out about her A)
Me: I understand. You should contact people at your own pace.
W: I don't know that I'll ever be friends with them again. They betrayed me. They were so mean to xAP too. They sent her nasty text messages that they didn't approve or want to be her friend anymore. I'm not defending her, I'm just saying.
Me: Sometimes we forgive people that hurt us because we love them.
W: I don't know that I can ever forgive their betrayal. What they did to xAP was really mean. Some people don't deserve forgiveness.
Me: Should I not forgive you for betraying me?
W: It's different. What they did was childish. What I did was adult.
Thoughts??????
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13
