Dingo,
It's ok to tell her you need more time, that you need more time to work on yourself.

I agree that she needs more time, but be careful in how you choose your wording.

Please don't stop looking into your issues that need addressed, you both need to fix things with yourselves before things can work between you, that I promise.

M46,W41
D16,D18
M22,T25
BD 11/12
W moved out 01/13
Piecing 10/13
Divorced 01/15
"Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can."
UrWorthy