Feel like falling down

[willbwell]

Feb 13, h just came over one evening and said he missed us and wanted to come back home. I immdiately said ok. d15 was already in bed, son's not home. lots of sex. there was no real discussion of issues in marriage.
said at that time, affair was wrong.
I am just happy to have h back home.
2 weeks later, h is out of town for work.s17, d15 and I are waiting for h to return home from trip.
He calls and says giving a friend a ride home.
kids and I wait.
call and goes to voicemail.
eventually, d15 goes to bed.
2hrs later, h calls and says he has gone back to apt.
we talk the next day and h says he is still in EA with ow.

march 13, h tells boys he has been unfaithful to me.
h tells boys if they ever want to talk..., I laugh uncontrollably, tell h he is full of shat.

trying to DB.

7/13 starts with flirty texts. h initiated.
again, I let him just come back home. again no discussion.
my mistake.
sex is different.
h comes on vaca with us to FL. I can tell things are not good once again.no sex
we go on a couples weekend with friends. was hoping this would have a positive impact on h.
on way back from weekend, h says he is not coming back home.
h wants to move on.

credit card bill shows h was in ow city right before couples trip. he lied and said he was in another city and flights full so staying over.

h wants D so he doesn't have to lie anymore( my opinion)