NEW LIFE / NEW ME - AIRBORNE II

[Fartiltre]

I texted W today:

ME (14:11)
Hi
Ds have had a nice but busy weekend. D4 has been missing some and was rather sad this morning. D6 will possibly ask about filmnight tomorrow. It is all right with me, but entirely up to you. Let me know if it is all right. Say hi to the Ds.
Fartiltre

W (14:27):
Hey. Thanks for update. I think D4 is just having a bad period. She is almost sad everytime I set her off at kindergarten. But she is in general having a hard time saying goodbye. She get’s some extra hugs.
I hope you had a nice day Saturday. Weather was great
It’s fine with filmnight. I will talk to her and let you know. Are you still watching StarWars or have you changed kategori…? D6 has been having some bad dreams about death and destruction, buring houses and that we all die…! Have you thought about this being to early for her? It is called adult-starwars for a reason Talk later

Me (14:37)
I have talked with D6 about it and first we agreed not to see Starwars. She has told about the dreams. She came on her own initiative and said that she would like to see it. I have told her to think about it and then ask you for permission if she still feel like it. I just wanted to inform you so you know that she might ask

Call from W
W called a minute later and we spoke for around 15 min.
At first she seems annoyed about the last sentence in the latter text I sended but after I explained that it was just to inform and that I meant nothing else she calmed down.
Then we discussed the StarWars. Calm and pleasant. She apologized for not telling me sooner about D6s bad dreams and I told her that I have seen nothing of this and that it is the first time D6 has talked about it. We exchanged views and solved the issue.

Until this point in the convo this seemed like her only reason to call but then she brought up the Christmas and planning. We quickly agreed on that 25/12 is the children’s day and that no shifting should be done there. Her birthday is 26/12 and she invited me to come over to her place. She would like the Ds to be there and I told her off course and that they should. I didn’t answer her invitation. She told me who she invited – Neighbors, my best friend and his W, MIL, SIL, but she didn’t mention others and frankly there won’t be room for more.
We normally attend church on the 26.12 and afterwards visit neighbors. We also talked a little about that and she stated that she is going. I didn’t say if we are going or not.
Then she invited herself to come to my place on the 23. I didn’t answer this as well.
She informed that she and Ds will go to XW1 for New Year’s eve. I told her that it sounded nice.
She asked about how the Christmasparty Saturday turned out, how many attended and so on. I told her a little about it.

The talk was much longer than normal. She talked most the time, but since I am now speaking more, the dialogue is more fluent. I still do not ask her questions other than about the children.

She seems so utterly gone when we talk like this. Her voice is calm, pleasant but cold, she seems to have it all figured out and she asks but doesn’t tell (I am opposite). During the call she stated that she finds it important that I do things like film-evenings without D4 and that she won’t do a second Christmas with the Ds. She seems like everything is just absolutely fine and she seems to be happy
I believe the call went OK all though she might be wondering why I didn’t make any decisions.
I feel like jumping into my car, drive to her place and then give her a big hug and a kiss without saying anything……and just hoping that this nightmare will end!

Wonka & LTH,
Thanks for advising me!
Wonka, you are so right – the money-issue should wait and it will!
LTH, you might just be right. She has a password to company exchange server, that I wouldn’t even give a dear friend. It’s a service that can be bought for 2 USD a month but at the same time I am properly out to make her face reality. I will leave the Exchange-server be for now.
…so I didn’t bring any of this up!
Wonka, I like your advice on the server issue, but for now I will talk to my partners about it. If they do not see a problem I will let W be there for some time. This is only because I hope to R – if I didn’t she would have lost access a long time ago.

Right now I am feeling like:
Having her over on the 23 and doing something nice and cozy for some hours with the children.

I do not feel like attending her birthday so I will properly decline this one.

I do not know where I am in regards of church and visit neighbors.
PROs: It is a nice day. It could be a nice day to show the meaning of family and doing things together – to W and to everybody else.
CONs: I won’t feel good about this – it will feel awkward. The children should not shift place there. The children will be all over her since they haven’t seen her for a week and that could make me feel left out! Neighbors, W and Ds will leave for Ws place to celebrate her birthday afterwards and S10 and I will not – that might seem strange to him and Ds.

I could also go contra on this one and invite her to come to my place an hour before church and then go along – that could take the edge off the children and make the exchange of bags easier and more comfortable.

ADVICE?