on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

She absolutely has to end all contact with OM and I need to see a real commitment to work on our issues. Not just 'go through the motions' counseling. I have an idea of what I want to see - its the real earnest effort I was looking for all summer when she said we were working on things. I never got it.

Anyway - i do definitely plan to take it slowly. We have this apartment that she can't get out of right away anyhow so I want to take advantage of it. That needs to be her primary place of residence for now. If she can really end all contact, I think we need to approach things in more of a dating mode.

I am doing a lot better. For the first time, I have really internalized that, while I contributed, this is really her issue and not mine.