Okay Ms. Pam - here is the update that you demanded!

For starters, we are still in that weird world of spending a lot of time together, having a lot of together, but he still lives on his own.

Last week, he called to let me know that Easter was any time after noon at his cousins. So that was his way of inviting me along.

He was here on Thursday and Friday evenings. Then on Saturday, he came over in the morning and helped clean house as we were having his cousin (our best man) and family over for the kids annual easter egg dying party.

They came over right after lunch. I helped the kids while the guys went downstairs to watch the Masters on TV. Then I put out snacks for everyone. My H's aunt and uncle, another cousin, mom and sister, all ended up at our house. Most ended up eating dinner here too. Then H left at 9 p.m. to go out for a beer with his cousin.

Did Easter together. It was an uneventful day except I had no voice. My allergies kicked in, which triggers asthma, which gives me laryngitis. I should mention that after my D9 and I got home from church, but before we left for Easter dinner, there was just enough time for - can you believe it?

Got home late on Sunday - he helped put kids to bed and then left.

He worked late on Monday, but came over on Tuesday night and started our taxes. I went to a meeting and to pick up kids at various activities.

Wednesday he worked late but came over last night to finish taxes. At dinner, the kids were not cooperating so things got a little tense. It was strickly kids stuff (not liking something, not wanting to finish something, etc) but I always have the sense that he blames me for their behavior. Whatever.

Took D9 to her hockey game, came home late and he had S5 ready for bed. I copied the taxes, then he left to mail them. He had an early meeting today.

The hardest part is watching S3 say "Pack up and come home, repeatedly, then cry because daddy didn't say okay".

Positives:
1. H is spending a lot of time here.
2. H is playful and laughing more than he has in a long time.
3. H wants to sneak in whenever we can.
4. H filed taxes as married filing jointly.
5. H wants to sell our classic car to upgrade our boat. (this could also be a bad thing - but I am not going to pass judgement yet)
6. H helped get house ready for guests.

So there it is. The things I need to keep working on getting past are:

1. Not getting resentful of his having it all - his family, his wife, and his own space.
2. Not getting upset that his cost of living separately is draining our savings account.
3. His inability or unwillingness to talk out loud about what is keeping him from coming home.

Not too much for me to work on huh? LOL!

I just keep praying. I just keep busy. I just keep on acting "AS IF".

Have a great weekend!

totite "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."