C - I am so sorry that you had such a difficult weekend. I agree that it is one things to suspect an A, but it is another to have it confirmed. On one hand, I was so angry and hurt. On the other hand, I felt relieved that I was not crazy and my suspicions were justified. My IC told me that my H was like a drug addict and that he would go to any length to protect his A, including continuing to lie and deny it despite the clear evidence to the contrary. It still blows my mind that he thinks that he can lie and I will actually believe him. I believe in my heart that one day, H was have to come to terms with all the lies that he has told and the pain that he has caused. But that will be his journey and I cant change it.
I agree with going dim for a while, especially because you are running on pure emotion right now. I was angry with something that my H did last week. I was still friendly to his face, but I just choose to occupy myself with activities in order to limit the face to face time. Focus on yourself right now. Just make sure that you are not making decisions to punish your W. Proceed with honor and dignity, even if your W cannot.
