We're Dating

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ces, thanks for the visit! The OSU game was sad but Michigan State won it, no doubt. Maybe we need a new defensive coordinator.

We had a great getaway. No snow, cold and rain the first day but that just made it more fun to cozy up. We even talked about buying property in that little town, but then, I want to buy property everywhere. This got us talking about our past real estate adventures and I learned something I needed to know. WE bought a place that was foundation and 4 exterior log walls. He finished it, which took him away from home (he took older son with him) but that was H's job for the months it took to complete.

Our plan was to use it as vacation rental but it didn't work out, so we sold it.

That was probably 10 years ago and all this time, I've thought that he resented that project and me for getting us into it. His feelings were the exact opposite. He liked working on it and being in that location. He enjoyed the time with S and he was sad when we sold it. He also reminded me that we came out way on top in the deal.

So again, mindreading does us no good. I beat myself up about that for a long time.

And ces, thanks for this insight:

I get the safe thing. If your H is anything like me, its not that adventure isn't fun but that whole "failing" thing if things go wrong and you can't fix it. That can be tough on guys.

He has said something very similar to that about failing. It's been a bit of a theme throughout this process. I think we need to talk more about that maybe.

Or how could I best validate his feelings around that?

Thanks, buddy!