S12 has unfortunately overheard some of our "discussions" over the last few months. Not sure what all he thinks he knows. W has made the comment that he heard me say that she had a "boyfriend" and no telling what else. I witnessed S12 peeking over her shoulder the other night to see who she was texting. He is a smart kid with a pretty good head on his shoulders. When we had a man to man talk several weeks ago, he told me he was afraid I was going to leave, not that W was going to ask me to, but that I would choose to. I assured him I wasn't going anywhere and that I loved him no matter what.
So here's the problem: S12 probably knows that his mother is engaging conversation or relations with another man. Trying not to mind read, but he seems to be very suspicious of her activity. How can I address this so that he can feel comfortable and safe. As a 12 year old, he's trying to figure out relationship dynamics anyway, and this sure isn't helping. I have avoided using our children as pawns and tried to protect them from this storm. I know W's relationship with him is hers to deal with, but it is my responsibility to protect my son and help him learn and understand life. W says she told him weeks ago that "sometimes adults have misunderstandings."
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
