To protect myself, I've been interviewing for new jobs and one is looking very good. If we divorce, he will probably have to sell the house because I am entitled to part of the value of the house, part of his retirement, and will likely receive four years of maintenance .
I'm also taking a class toward finishing up a degree I never got. I'm surrounding myself with supportive people and just...sort of preparing for anything.
I hate to see him sad. And I really don't want to leave him in a financial mess either. But I will protect myself and my daughter. No question.
I'm getting a Christmas tree tomorrow . I'm preparing my daughter for college, getting the money to pay for it. I'm spending one night every weekend away.
Ive stopped talking at all about the future. He found out I saw an attorney which really seemed to piss him off. He had been thinking we could negotiate it ourselves via a mediator. But how could I do that when I don't even know what we own, what we owe, or where it is ? I needed a lawyer.
It upset him, but as far as I'm concerned for me, it's part of the 180. Totally different than business as usual.
I'm ready to drive the car , I think he can't right now. I'll get three jobs if I have to.
