Clarify a couple of things if you will:
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As a result, they were pretty overbearing with me and I guess over time, I learned to think that my way was the only right way.

How was their being overbearing related to you thinking your way was the only right way?
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Even though I think I am doing what is best for us and our marriage, not treating my wife as an equal partner was demeaning, selfish and controlling.

The ultimatum was best for your M but in the past you treated her that way?

Don't read anything into her actions of this morning. Stay away for a couple of weeks, let all the emotion die down, work on you.

You can do this.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss