on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Thanks for the response labug. I do plan to continue NC or at the very least limit the contact to that initiated by her- if I am in a good frame of mind to have contact and not have a negative interaction. Is there any real insight into her frame of mind to be gained from our interaction this morning?

I have recognized the ways I need to improve myself. I actually had a very long talk with my mom over the weekend and learned where a lot of my behaviors come from. I was a pretty willful and at times defiant child and always had to do things my way. I always learned lessons the hard way and it frustrated my parents to no end. As a result, they were pretty overbearing with me and I guess over time, I learned to think that my way was the only right way. I went to a top college in the usa, was an army officer for a number of years and am now a mid - upper level manager at the company I work for. So I am used to being the authority. That is an attitude that was helped by my upbringing. My parents are also very successful and felt like they always had the recipe for success in any aspect of life. That is an attitude I cannot take into a marriage and I believe is the root of most of my personal growth areas.

Even though I think I am doing what is best for us and our marriage, not treating my wife as an equal partner was demeaning, selfish and controlling.

So that is the first thing I want to work on. To be more accepting of other ideas and opinions.