"You're My Best Friend"

[reachingHigher]

Thank you, Ambi and FY for all the suggestions! I can tell you have thought of these things before, lol!

H and I managed to squeeze in some naughty behavior today

uRw I love all your suggestions, of course! I'm going to start the two lists. And think about what I would like to try that would make me giddy! That used to be pretty easy to do...not so much any more. It would be nice to get some of that back.

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On a more serious note, H and I had a series of small R talks today culminating in a big one while we wrapped some presents (I was mindful not to do too much direct eye contact as he chose to do this while doing an activity.)

It was about why he came back. I had some questions. He said he has been perplexed that I should question anything. He said that "counselors" of his have said that had I realized how very far he was GONE I should be nothing but overjoyed he came back!

IOW, I should've had NO issues this year!

How interesting! I think he s/b OVERJOYED he has a home to come back to, and he thinks I s/b OVERJOYED he came back!

I think both are true. But we still had some reconciling issues.

Since we can assume neither he nor his "counselors" have been through the DB course--they couldn't know that reconciliation has its own set of issues.

So....maybe that's why I didn't get The Great Apology? We see life through different lenses.

It was a very comfortable, warm and loving convo. I told him we have been through a lot this year, 2013, and we can happily put it aside and look forward to a great new year.