Divorce on the table, Hoping for miracle

[NeedingMore]

Groov,

That must have been tough! You were very good and positive. Well done in the validation department. I think this also gives some insight into the reasons behind some of her actions. She was obviously having a different experience than you when it came to your business interactions. I can relate to that as I have always felt that my XH never took me seriously in terms of financial/family decisions. He always knew better and more. Difference here is that he has never validated that for me, and he is incapable of doing that. Like I mentioned before, he was also very mentally abusive to me. This is why our sitch didn't work out. I know anything can happen, and this can go either way for you...but even after all that my XH did to me, I had many, many, many, thoughts of getting back together, even as recent as this last year. I knew it wasn't really going to happen because he is an unstable jerk, but I had the thoughts none-the-less. Your W may be confused, but there is no way that your PMA, and validating are going to go unnoticed. There is no way that after all this time together, she isn't worried about her decisions. The way I see it, this is your chance to prove to her that you are the one she can count on. Be strong and stable. Then, if things don't work out in the end...you will know it is not because you gave up.

You are growing. That is a very positive thing.