Bright, I do think that your h is having a mild mlc and just needs time and space to figure things out. Maybe he's gone back to a time in his past life and is actually living the way he once did.
It's difficult to say what's going through his head, but apparently he needed some time away or as I have heard this stated before "a break from the marriage". I wouldn't worry too much about him because it sounds like he's doing okay venturing forth in the cold, cruel world.
Yes, it does sound like he still wants to touch base w/his past, i.e., bil. It's his way of knowing that people are still out there and the lifeline is still attached at both ends.
No, the marriage wasn't bad, but he had to this right now because mortality was on his mind. He may have felt that he had some unfinished business from the past and needed to figure things out. Whatever the reason, if the marriage had been that bad, he would have left many years ago...so put that thought out of your mind.
Bright, keep the focus on you and your life. The man upstairs is watching over your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
